While this is the most wonderful time of year for some, it’s also the most stressful time of year for many. The reality is the mental illness does not take a break during the holidays. In fact, some aspects of the festive season can exacerbate mental health struggles.
The Comparison Trap
Those with mental health struggles may feel worse about their lives, seeing others in a festive mood and posting curated ‘picture-perfect’ moments on social media. Those who are grieving may find it especially difficult when others enjoying time with loved ones. Those who are in conflictual relationships or are undergoing a break-up or divorce can find it difficult seeing other couples happy together. This does not mean that one is unhappy for others, but it can be triggering to be reminded about what one hoped to have for themselves.
Take time to honor your feelings and the weight of the year. Be patient with yourself. Remember that social media is only a highlight reel and nobody’s life is as perfect as it may look from the outside.
Family Conflict
Those with family conflict may find it difficult to spend more time with family, meet family obligations or uphold traditions that no longer feel good for them. Many unresolved family issues can come to a head during the festive season with families spending more time together. Uncomfortable questions about personal issues are also a source of great stress. E.g. someone who is experiencing career uncertainty may dread questions about what they’re doing with their life. Someone who is struggling with infertility may dread being asked when they’re starting a family. Others dread comments about their appearance, relationship status or other personal challenges.
Ser boundaries to that help you feel safe. This may mean deciding to spend limited time (or none at all) in environments that stress you out, rehearsing answers to unwelcome questions, grounding exercises, a grounding person with you or an exit strategy.
Financial Stress
Financial stress has been a huge stressor for many this year with the cost of living crisis. The pressure to spend can add to this already stressful situation, especially if surrounded by those who are not considerate or empathic. Each of us need to be mindful of our individual situations and commitments, so we don’t overcommit ourselves. Set a reasonable budget and be honest about what you are able or unable to do.
Loneliness
Many feel lonely during this time of year. While some feel lonely due to distance from loved ones, grief or unresolved family/relationship issues, others may feel lonely even amid company, because they have disconnected from themselves (to maintain relationships). It helps to know who you can reach out to. Something that many fine find helpful when lonely, is to do something kind for others – perhaps looking for opportunities to volunteer or give back in some way. If you are religious, look out for services or activities where you will be surrounded by like-minded people.
Year End Reflection
As you reflect on the year, remember to celebrate your little wins and understand the obstacles in not achieving other goals. Wins aren’t just material or externally visible – it may be that you’ve grown more resilient, utilised more effective coping skills, become more assertive, etc. Also bear in mind that sometimes despite our best efforts, life happens and we have new challenges that divert our energy. Be kind to yourself.
End the year mindfully
Make time for things that bring you joy. Remember moderation in everything. The festive season is a busy time, so plan ahead, be reasonable about what you commit to and give yourself extra time to get things done. Spend some quiet time reflecting on your priorities for 2026.
Be honest with yourself if you need professional help. If it feels too big of a step, start out by calling a helpline to just chatting to your GP to point you in the right direction.
Wishing you a blessed and peaceful festive season.
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